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The reason I want to see a compositor comparison is because on Wayland the implementation really matters. This isn’t actually a x vs Wayland comparison, it’s actually x vs 1 Wayland compositor.
For all we know there’s a KWin perf issue that has nothing to do with Wayland itself.

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